What do we mean when we talk about space? We hear it all the time, this elusive and vague statement; “I need space, being in a good head space or creating a space.”
Dictionary.com defines space as; a continuous area or expanse that is free, available, or unoccupied or a position (two or more items) at a distance from one another.
When I refer to needing space, it means I need to be alone to process and download.
Creating distance from others allows us to think, feel, process and understand our surroundings.
“Why did I react that way? Why do I all of a sudden feel angry and upset? Why do I want to eat everything?
Taking a time out and tuning in allows us to identify what we’re feeling and how we want to react, respond and do next.
Here are my 5 tips to create space for more balanced living
I get it. Mindlessly scrolling through your social feeds is a new pastime. It allows us to be social while still being antisocial.
But it also creates an alternate universe and technically we are never “off” as we’re flooded with what everyone else is doing, wearing, saying, etc.
Do we even have an original thought anymore?
I find coming home from work, laying on the couch, closing my eyes in complete silence really helps (Ok, you might fall asleep and I’m not mad at you).
Additionally, turning off your phone (yes, completely) and leave it in the other room at night.
I put the “no” in I’ll let you know however there needs to be a balance between making plans and taking it day by day.
We live in a fast paced world and there is always something going on.
Therefore, it’s really important to be selective with your time (which is our most precious commodity), and ask yourself, “am I spending my time with people who are like-minded and who I feel good around? “Does it support my overall goals or the vision I have for my life?”
Or “am I saying yes because person x might be mad if I don’t show up or because they did something for me so now I have to go”
If your answer is for any other reason other than what is best for you or what you want, then you have to let that shit go and choose you every time.
Meditation can take lots of different forms. For the sake of this post, I’m asking you to turn off the world (TV, phone, music) and sit in silence with your eyes closed and just observe your thoughts with no attachment to them.
What that might look like is “OK, my legs are numb, did I set a timer for this?, what should I make for dinner”.
Just observe what your mind is doing and don’t judge or criticize yourself. You’ll be surprised at how much insight you’ll gain into yourself by practicing this 5 min a day.
The goal of meditation is to calm the “monkey mind” so you can clear out the bullshit and find more peace and calmness. We all need that.
Sit down and write out what’s on your mind. You will be amazed at what ends up on paper and how much insight it provides into what’s going on in your life.
You may feel weird at first like “dear diary” but write with the intention of releasing emotions and getting clear on what’s going on internally (without judgment).
This works to clear mental space by releasing the thoughts from your mind onto paper. It’s a great way to observe and let it go.
OK, easy for me to say, right? I’m all about that single dog mom’s life. However, it’s important to feed your soul in order to be the best version of yourself.
Creating space from others and taking care of you is a game changer.
For me, this means taking a dance class (or a dance party for one in my living room), cooking a new recipe, going to a new coffee shop or even pouring a glass of wine on a weeknight and watching a movie.
It doesn’t have to be extravagant but it’s about exploring new things and cultivating experiences for yourself.